Develop a view of letting go
Taking impermanence truly to heart is to be slowly freed from the idea of grasping, from our flawed and destructive view of permanence, from the false passion for security on which we have built everything. Slowly it dawns on us that all the heartache we have been through from grasping at the ungraspable was, in the deepest sense, unnecessary…But as we reflect…our hearts and minds go through a gradual transformation. Letting go begins to feel more natural and becomes easier and easier…the more we reflect, the more we develop the view of letting go; it is then that a shift takes place in our way of looking at everything. from The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying by Sogyal Rinpoche
The practice of non-attachment is something I have had to learn in a very real way this year. After the Palisades fires burned down my home, learning to let go became essential to my grieving process. Whether I was ready or not, the lesson presented itself. Although this year has been tough, I have learned a great deal about letting go of fears, expectations, limiting beliefs, control, things, and worry, and that, in itself, is a gift.
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